Inspired to do some cool sh*t…but wait, I have to change my son’s diaper first

diaper changeI recently read the book “Do Cool Sh*t,” by Miki Agrawal, thinking it would give me some much-needed inspiration after being at home with the kids for almost five years. And, although it is a very good read – filled with practical business-start up tips and memorable anecdotes – I was left feeling old and unaccomplished.

In “Do Cool Sh*t” Agrawal said, “I wrote this book because I wish someone had told me earlier that this kind of life was possible…”

She started her first business, a farm-to-table pizza restaurant called WILD, at the age of 26.

What was I doing at 26? Uh…drinking way too much bubble tea.


After the birth of my second son and after the initial chaos of getting used to caring for an infant and preschooler subsided, I started to mentally prepare for all the things we “had” to do – school schedules, swimming lessons, mandarin classes. My older son was only 3, but as the “experts” say, you’ve gotta start them early, right? During this time, I started to feel a tinge of sadness, but I couldn’t pinpoint the reason. After this feeling persisted for a while, I realized that I was completely focused on fulfilling “their” dreams, even though I wasn’t finished fulfilling my own.

As I wrote in a past post, I bought a $100 clothes rack from the art store, from the moment I came home with my first baby, my thoughts and actions were consumed with caring for them – feeding, bellychanging diapers, bathing, sleeping. It took me, perhaps, longer than others to realize that I could let go…a little.


I’m now two years older…and a little wiser. And although I’m still working to fulfill my own goals (it’s never too late), every time I read with my little boy, I caress his soft, chubby belly and think, “I wish someone had told me earlier that this kind of life was possible.”


  1. This post has me smiling/crying… I have felt this sentiment more than ever these past couple of months! As a mom, you sacrifice a lot for kids. And sometimes it includes putting your dreams and careers on hold. But I’m learning that I am having new dreams come true while embracing my new job as a mom. I think that’s what you’re doing too! This post really encouraged me. Thanks!

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  2. Hey girls. There are many dads who feel this way too. I never expected to be where I am. I REALLY thought I would be doing cool shit! Not scrubbing puke out of beddings and carpet @2 am. But it will be worth it in the end. (Soon,pls)

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    • For sure…aside from the all the challenges and worries, it’s pretty cool helping our kids to reach their milestones and to achieve their daily successes. Thanks for reading and commenting, Mike. It’s great to have a father’s perspective!


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